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Stagnancy: 5 Reasons Why We Get Stuck

April 28, 2016 By Uncoveries

“Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.”

– Fyodor Dostoyevskey

We’ve all been there, knee-deep in a swamp that’s steadily and slowly enveloping you in near darkness. While you sense the importance of struggling your way to shore, the silhouettes of unknown dangers lurking beyond create a stronger feeling of wariness. It’s the reel of the same old song that goes on and on. It’s the hollowness of fear, the heaviness of despair, the sinking feeling of inaction.

Many of us can relate to some version of stagnancy in our lives—whether it was overstaying in a situation that was no longer fitting, trying to make things the way it used to be or delaying an important decision to the intangible future.

We’re all aware the convenient path of least resistance often leads us down to stagnancy. But it doesn’t mean we’re immune. I’ve certainly succumbed many times, falling for the alluring comfort and slow suffocation in spite of being someone who strives for personal growth in my life.

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Uncovering the Roots of Fear

November 1, 2014 By Uncoveries

It’s the nastiest part of the uncovering process.

Fear. The deep roots are suffocating yet comforting at the same time.

It’s the feeling that keeps you locked in place, benignly disguised as keeping your best interests intact. “You’re lucky, others would be thrilled to have what you have now,” or “It could be worse, count your blessings,” or “I’ve already invested so much already” – even the soundest advice can be used for the wrong means. It’s like a little stooped grandma smiling toothlessly at you, offering you a plate of cookies she’s secretly poisoned.

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Comfort in the Unknown

October 21, 2014 By Uncoveries

The unknown, unfamiliar, unexpected – it often results in life’s most worthwhile experiences. Yet many people associate it with apprehension instead of with excitement and adventure. I understand – I was and, although to a lesser extent, am still one of them.

It’s only human. I still have moments when I breathe deeply, reminding myself to physically and mentally calm down. I tell myself I will make the best decision when the actual fork in the road presents itself – not one I’ve fabricated in my internal reality. The serendipitous quality of life happens when you open yourself up; it generally works out even when it doesn’t seem like it at the time.

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