We all have big dreams and long-term goals—outcomes that require regular, if not daily, actions to eventually realize.
It can be months or years before these projects come to fruition. What started with excitement and fresh energy can lose it’s sizzle in the day to day mundaneness of building towards the goal. On bad days, we may wonder if our efforts will go anywhere.
Instead of feeling in love with life, we’re irritable, impatient—or worse, we may give up.
In the daily grind, it’s easy to forget that you actually have everything you need in this moment. A meaningful life doesn’t need the realization of the dream. Because the irony is, once you reach the dream, it’s time to find a new one. Everything you need comes down to a few simple pleasures along with a sense of progress and something meaningful to work towards.
But it doesn’t change the fact that it gets tough on some days.
An Exercise to Keep Motivated
To combat the challenging periods in the building phase, I find the exercise Kylego (I pronounce it Ky-leg-go) from transformational comedian Kyle Cease* incredibly helpful. It’s the act of envisioning the future as it’s already happened out loud, in writing or in your head—like visualization but with the added validation of thinking it’s been realized. You talk, write or think about the next year as if you were reflecting back on what’s happened in the past. You’re encouraged to think expansively and fearlessly—weaving in big, opportune moments when certain things worked out or when you accomplished something amazing.
This exercise has been helpful in staying motivated on my vision and is one of my go-to boosts. I’ve included a guide below in case it’s helpful for you in building meaningful progress in your life! Let’s get started.
Different Kylego options:
- Option 1: Find a partner to do the Kylego exercise with you. One person will start and talk about what’s happened in the past year for a couple minutes. The other will listen attentively and support. Then you’ll switch roles.
- Option 2: Get a pen and piece of paper or journal and start writing what’s happened in the past year! You can go on for as long as you want.
- Option 3: Find a quiet place to sit down, close your eyes if you wish, and start Kylegoing in your mind.
- There aren’t any rules to Kylego when it comes to what to say. You can go as big or deep as you want, keeping it to whatever you’re comfortable with. Boldness and creativity is encouraged since this is an opportunity to inspire and allow for some serendipity.
- If you need to start small, do so. Start with some good and reasonable events—such as what you’d like to happen in the next week or some achievable milestones—and you may find as you gain momentum that more things will come to you.
- If you get stuck, simply say, write or think, “And I love it” and take your time before continuing on.
- If you’re the partner listening, be sure to listen attentively, smile and encourage. Supporting statements you can say are “Wow, that’s amazing”, “Tell me more”, “And?”, “Yes, I totally remember that!” or “I love it!” To supercharge or take the exercise further after the first person finishes, you can reflect back to them what you heard while adding any details and extras you believe fits their vision.
- Kylego doesn’t replace doing the work. You still have to show up, put in the hours and produce. What you may find is the work becomes a little easier, there’s some type of flow, or a happy surprise comes. With time, incredible coincidences may start happening!
What I like to do:
- Personally, I like to meditate for 15 to 30 minutes before Kylego. I find that a decluttered mind enables me to think bigger and more freely.
- I prefer option two, which is writing down my Kylego. There’s something powerful about seeing the words on the page, as if I were journaling about past amazing happenings. My husband and I will sometimes partner together to amp up the effect, but the daily practice is easier to schedule when it’s with my journal.
A few benefits I’ve experienced:
- I’m better able to deal with setbacks and challenges. I’m more optimistic and less fearful about uncertainty because I have an inner sense that everything will work out in the long run.
- I feel more abundant, confident, grateful and open to possibility. There’s this sense that anything can be possible, which is an amazing feeling. I say yes to more things and engage more with others.
- I’m more productive after my meditation and Kylego. I’m able to concentrate better and get into flow of whatever I work on next.
All styles of Kylego are welcome, so style your own. But for you example-lovers, here’s a shortened one I wrote. Add in specific details as they come to you!
Wow, 2016 has been such an amazing year. This year ended up being such a great year for so many reasons. I remember how things started ramping up and it got easier and easier to move forward on our projects and form new partnerships. With a couple chance happenings, I found ways to thrive as my husband and I made progress towards our long-term goals. I let go of some beliefs that weren’t benefiting me and my momentum speed up even more. I remember feeling amazing and thinking there was no reason to worry. I ended up finishing a book, launching it and seeing the numbers roll in. Everything turned out better than I could’ve imagined.
Now it’s your turn:
You have everything you need now to try out this exercise and use it whenever you need a boost or add it to your daily routine. I’d love to know how it goes for you. If you’d be willing, send me an email or post a comment below!