Without warning, a spark ignites on what was just another day. What happens is unexpected, yet there seems to be a message.
If you’re paying attention, it could be a spark—the catalyst for change.
And if you’re courageous enough to embrace the unknown, you may realize it’s time to move on. It may be time to move on in some capacity, whether it’s out of a current job, mindset, activity, relationship or environment. Read more
When the tumultuous trek fades into a calm stroll, it’s initially hard to believe.
Immersed in the daily toil of building towards our goal or dream, we’re taken aback that we’re suddenly there. We’ve lost count of all the steps in the process—but at some point, the effort from the previous phases Reassess, Erase, Explore and Build all come together to the most desired phase for many: Optimize. Read more
The destination is a marvelous sight to behold.
When we’ve set sight on a direction of growth and genuine excitement, it’s time to build, forging the path to our goal. Whether it’s trying out a new fitness regimen, changing careers, or embarking on a new relationship—building a new part of our life is when enthusiasm gradually gives way to muscle, mindset, patience and perseverance.
Moving from Explore to the Build phase is the beginning of a trek that can last from months to many years. This is where you hone intent, lay out a plan and execute the steps. It’s the practical, hardworking and laborious part of the journey. Build generally starts off with high energy and optimism with a dash of necessary foolishness. In new territory, we’re bound to be naïve in certain areas as we research, learn and figure things out as we go along. Read more
Signs of growth eventually emerge from the space we’ve erased.
After a pause that’s almost always longer than we’d like, we find ourselves squinting in the brightness of possibility. We’ve had to grieve and erase a part of us that was no longer fitting, and the heaviness has slowly subsided. Through erasing, we’ve created space for the exploration to come.
Where we saw ending and loss, we now see hope for the new. Read more
It doesn’t get any easier once the awareness sets in. We often know deep down what’s next—but very few of us like to erase.
The muddled sense of restlessness, the shock from an unexpected event, the suffocating heaviness of stagnancy—these are sorted through in reassessment. After embracing the discomfiting pause in the Reassess stage, we’re faced with a grim decision. Read more
A remarkable number of people dislike being alone with their thoughts. Like truly alone—without a phone, TV, laptop or tablet to help pass the time.
What about you? As an introvert who recharges by being alone, I enjoy the time I spend by myself. But if I were to count the minutes that I spend without being occupied, distracted and entertained by technology, they add up to far less than I think.
The constant distraction has a cost. Read more
“Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.”
– Fyodor Dostoyevskey
We’ve all been there, knee-deep in a swamp that’s steadily and slowly enveloping you in near darkness. While you sense the importance of struggling your way to shore, the silhouettes of unknown dangers lurking beyond create a stronger feeling of wariness. It’s the reel of the same old song that goes on and on. It’s the hollowness of fear, the heaviness of despair. and the sinking feeling of inaction.
Many of us can relate to some version of stagnancy in our lives—whether it was overstaying in a situation that was no longer fitting, trying to make things the way it used to be or delaying an important decision to the intangible future.
We’re all aware the convenient path of least resistance leads us down to stagnancy. But it doesn’t mean we’re immune. I’ve certainly succumbed many times, falling for the alluring comfort and slow suffocation in spite of being someone who strives for personal growth in my life. Read more
There are natural cycles all throughout life. Each day, we’re greeted by the morning and engulfed by the night. We experience the seasons in a year, and we see the creation and cessation of life in the creatures and humans around us.
Yet when it comes to the patterns of how we live our lives day to day, many of us don’t pay attention to the phases necessary to continuously reach our potential. Through grade school, high school, college, to our first job or two, this is more or less set by the structured path of our society. We’re moved along from school to job system, experiencing new environments and challenges along the way.
But once we get past the scripted path is where (for most people) the trouble begins.
As I’m writing this, I’m sitting in the Dominican Republic with my husband. We’ve been here since the fifth, and it’s been so amazing that we’ve extended our stay an extra four days.
The weather is perfection.
It’s 80 degrees every day with a breeze that rustles the palm fronds and balances out the heat and moments of stillness. The Airbnb condo we’re staying at is modern and gorgeous, and located in a small town near La Romana on the Caribbean side of the Dominican Republic. Read more
I thought it’d be easier this time around, but I was wrong.
These past two weeks, I’ve found renewed value in an article I wrote about the year after my sabbatical. This comes at a time as I’m transitioning into new possibilities in contract work.
It turns out, I could use some reminders of lessons I’ve already learned to be true. Read more